My wife of 16 years is leaving me for her mother. Her father recently passed and her mother, who has battled depression for most of her life, is not doing well. My wife is from Georgia, where her mother still lives. Despite my best efforts, I could not convince her to move her mom up here and I am not willing to leave my job and take our daughter out of school to move to Georgia.
We worked everything out ourselves and took our agreement to a mediator to write up. We were about to sign it when my wife decided she wants more money out of the house because Redfin says our house is worth much more and many houses around us are on the market for more than we agreed ours is worth.
I am buying her out and it will be tight. But, I don’t want to move — our 15-year-old daughter and her horse are staying here with me. It will be really hard to find another property where we can have the horse — I cannot afford to board the horse on just my income.
How can I keep our deal in place and make her sign?
You cannot make her sign but there are things you can do that might keep things on track. First, your wife needs to understand you can only buy her out using the bank appraisal in connection with your refinance. I can almost guarantee your bank appraisal will be less than Redfin says your house is worth because refinance appraisals are always lower than if you were to list your house for sale. Once you have a bank appraisal in hand, you can further your conversations and offer to buy her out at your agreed upon value.
If this fails, have a frank conversation with your wife and the mediator. Your daughter is 15, so she only has a few years left in school. It will be hard enough that her mother is choosing to move thousands of miles away. Imagine how hard it will be for her if she has to move to a different town midway through high school and possibly not have her horse nearby because her mom wants more money. Obviously, you would never say this to your child but at 15 she is likely pretty perceptive and will be angry with both of you, but especially her mom.
If she still wants more money, file a complaint for divorce seeking custody of your daughter, child support and ownership of the house. Once the process gets going, you have bought yourself at least a year, likely closer to two. She might file a motion asking for the house to be sold. Once you raise the impact a sale would have on your daughter to the judge, unless there is a significant fact you have omitted here, the motion will be denied. Maybe then her sense of fairness will finally return.
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